During your childhood, did your parents ever tell you that you needed to wait at least an hour before swimming after a meal, or you would get cramps? If you have children, have you ever told them the same thing? If so, then why? Have you ever stopped to consider that it may not be true?
You may have heard that red wine is suitable to drink to red meat while white wine is suitable for fish, and if you have, you probably assume that this is so and act accordingly. You may also have heard that having a bad posture correlates with feeling pain in one’s shoulders and back, and accept this as the truth without questioning it. If you are anything like me, you might now be Googling these things to see if they are “true” or not (or perhaps you have already done so, but if you have not, then check here, here and especially here for some interesting input). It is likely that you have never before questioned these “facts”, but just taken them for granted. Why is that?
We are all born into a world which has already been interpreted by others. During our childhood and onwards through the rest of our life, bit by bit, we are exposed to habits, assumptions &c. that those around us take for granted, and we bring these things into our own subjective inner world, making them a part of us and how we view reality. This process is called socialisation and can be said to consist of three sub-processes: internalisation, objectivation and externalisation.
To explain these three terms, I have to begin by explaining another, namely the objective reality. The objective reality is the world that exists outside of us and independently of us, as habits, patterns, norms, institutions, &c. (i.e., socially objectivised knowledge). It’s not objective in the sense that it’s objectively true, but objective in the sense that it exists outside of our subjective selves.
The objective reality is carried by language and everyday interaction between humans. We internalise this reality, meaning that we bring it into our inner world, and it becomes our subjective reality (existing within us, as part of our consciousness). Next, we externalise the subjective reality by creating long-lasting creations – such as routines, categorisations and laws – in the outside world. These creations are objectivised through language and everyday interaction, and become the objective reality “outside” of us (now slightly adjusted after having passed through our inner selves). The creations are then once again internalised, and so on.
This may seem a little abstract, so I’ll demonstrate the concept with a figure and an example.
When you were told not to swim after a meal as a child, your parents presented you with an objective reality. According to this reality, “swimming after a meal leads to cramps”. You took this as an absolute truth – inadvertent, even. You didn’t question it. In fact, you internalised it, brought it into your inner world. And when, many years later, you found yourself with your own children at the beach or by a swimming pool, you externalised the truth that “swimming after a meal leads to cramps” and turned it once again into an objective reality, this time for your children (and yourself). And this is how the assumption that one should not swim within an hour after having eaten came to be perpetuated through two – and probably more – generations. The same can be said about the wine matches and the correlation between posture and pain, although the things we learn during the first stage of socialisation (i.e., from our parents when we are very young) tend to be more authoritative (and hence feel more or less set in stone) than the things we learn later in life.[1]
The socialisation process is thought-provoking and raises many interesting questions, but in order to connect the beginning and the end of this post, I’ll settle for asking my readers only one of them: Which assumptions are you unknowingly carrying with you from your childhood and to your own children? (Or, alternatively, if you do not have children: Which assumptions are you still taking for granted that you were told in your childhood?)
[1] Bo, Inger Glavind, Att tänka socialpsykologiskt, Studentlitteratur, 2014, p. 155.